24 Jun The Mysterious Sexuality
The mysteries of a man or woman’s sexual nature continue to unravel as we grow, mature and explore our bodies & the consciousness that resides within.
Do men really hit their sexual peak at 18? And when do women reach their sexual prime? Short answer, depends on the person. Sexuality is fluid and organic, it’s certainly not static or linear. Like all aspects of life, it’s also near impossible to take something out of a context; sexuality occurs within and is influenced by an historical and cultural climate. What we place in the spectrum of normalcy has drastically changed throughout history, and will continue to. How many times a week is it normal to have sex now until you are deemed dysfunctional? And was that considered healthy 500 years ago?
According to one survey from the contraceptive app Natural Cycles “Eight out of 10 women in the oldest age group (36+) said they saw themselves as sexy, while only four out of 10 women between the ages of 23 and 35 said the same.”
Sexiness isn’t completely sexuality, it’s more the like fuel bringing it to life.
There is an idea out there that women prime at 35, and men at 20. There are so many things that come into play however. Hormones, the type of relationship, how long you have been in a relationship, the risk of unwanted pregnancy. Women may be physically in their sexual prime (questionable) in their 30’s, but perhaps this is a measure of comfortability in their skin, a growing sexiness of confidence, a mastering of technique, a general ripening of body awareness itself, or safety in the security of a relationship. These things can happen at different life stages.
A really great point to make is that ‘sex drive’ and ‘sexual satisfaction’ are quite different, and don’t necessarily go hand in hand. The real question to ask yourself is if you are happy with your expression of sexuality? Does it feel stifled or does it feel open? In what ways does it want to be expressed? Then you will find out what’s normal for yourself, and how to cultivate a deeper and more satisfying expression of it.